Letting Go of Your Limiting Beliefs


It’s important to mention that each of your limiting beliefs serves a purpose. They are there because they protect you from something. This “something” often manifests as a form of pain.

Now, of course, this doesn’t mean that the belief makes any sense at all, or that it’s practical in the present moment. What it does mean is that each of your limiting beliefs has good intentions, and these intentions are there to protect you from pain. However, frequently, when it comes to limiting beliefs these intentions can be misguided. They might protect you from short-term pain, which unfortunately often leads to long-term pain.

Moving forward it’s critical to determine what you are gaining by holding onto each of your limiting beliefs. Ask yourself:

How am I deriving pleasure by holding onto this limiting belief?

What good intention does this belief provide me with?

What value am I gaining by holding onto this belief?

To replace your limiting belief with a more empowering belief, you will need to convince yourself that the value you’re deriving from this limiting belief isn’t required any longer. Otherwise, your new empowering belief must in some way fill this void. Therefore, you either fill this void or eliminate the void altogether. The choice is yours to make.

Preparing Yourself for Change

The emotional intensity of each of your limiting beliefs can be measured using submodalities.

Submodalities are ways in which you interpret and then represent your world using your five senses. It’s all about how you visualize things, how you hear things, and how you feel things internally.

The limiting beliefs that are most difficult to overcome are supported by very vivid and emotionally intense submodalities.

Let’s say for instance that your goal is to become an airplane pilot. However, you have this nagging fear of heights. This is apparently a huge obstacle that will prevent you from reaching your goal.

The main reason you’re afraid is that you exaggerate things in your mind to such an extent that it scares you. Everything becomes visually and kinesthetically intense when you think about heights. And that is the main reason why this fear is prevalent in your life.

There’s, of course, a supporting limiting belief that’s attached to this fear which tells you that “heights are dangerous.” This might or might not be true. However, because you believe it, it’s, therefore, true for you.

Given this, take one of your limiting beliefs and ask yourself:

How do I picture this limiting belief in my head?

How do I imagine it in my minds-eye?

What does this limiting belief look like specifically?

What does it sound like?

What does it feel like?

What does it smell like?

What does it taste like?

One way to make this belief less intense is to adjust the submodalities you use while thinking about this fear.

Instead of picturing this scary scenario in your head about the dangers of heights, try instead toning things down a little and distancing yourself from your fear using your imagination. That way the intensity of your limiting belief (manifesting as fear) is reduced, and as a result, you will be in a better place emotionally to overcome this mental roadblock.

Before Moving Forward…

Before moving on, it’s important to note that some of your limiting beliefs may, in fact, have some basis in reality. These beliefs are not based on assumptions but instead upon facts. If they are based on facts, then you will need to treat these beliefs as “problems” that must be solved. They are in essence the physical obstacles that you must circumvent to clear the path to your goals.

Okay, there’s just one more thing you need to do before you start creating a set of empowering beliefs that are congruent with the goals you would like to achieve. That one thing requires that you convince yourself of the following three things:

  • “Responsibility for change rests in my hands…”
  • “Change happens instantly when I’m committed…”
  • “Things must change now…”

Only and when you accept these three beliefs as being your truth, should you begin working through the belief transformation process.

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